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Write on a sheet of paper the names of the persons who hurt you. �b[ŞØ w This theoretical reflection of the authors' postulates four therapeutic stages of the forgiveness and self-forgiveness process. Confront your emotional pain - your shock, fear, anger, and grief. 2 0 obj Forgiveness is Practical ! ��mǣ�������������i{}� Just remember, as a Christian, you are already forgiven by God, through the sacrifice of His Son. x��\[�+�~����$`��jI�`�xI`! There are two “types” of forgiveness – decisional forgiveness and emotional forgiveness. Then, identify the specific behavior that damaged you. Forgiveness helps you achieve even your most practical and immediate goals. 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Journaling is a great way to work through anger and hurt. #2. <> A lot of people try to avoid the feeling stage and go straight to spiritual interpretation. ã⠿Ħğº¦pMœØµš�KQÒMÇõL‘œÀ™ŠTÎAIY4°«å^dQé§�,)+àFÖ[±çoP{á:4¸"¤0(ã¤óáG1ùx²Z¼•×²İæÚêF…4 <>>> Forgiveness allows you to break free from limiting beliefs and attitudes. At this stage of forgiveness, you are aware that the length of time you experience a situ-ation as a grievance is primarily up to you. Using The Four Steps to Forgiveness It is best to do the Four Steps in writing till you get some experience. 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